One of the things that I will never shut up about is how you should not treat your wedding day like it's a movie set or a list of very specific moments to check off. It's kind of like giving birth-- you can plan for specific things or to not get an epidural or to have a natural birth, but sometimes you just don't get to choose how things go down. Being rigid about your plan just sets you up to feel stressed and to feel like you're missing out when one of the things doesn't get checked off the list. It's ok to have a plan, but it's also ok for feelings to change, and for plans to change to accommodate those feelings.